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Monday, October 22, 2012

Shoulda ... What If ...

Yesterday was the estimated due date of Baby R #1.  I didn't think much of the date yesterday until I was alone in my thoughts.  So weird that I am sitting here, with #2 growing and I'm wondering about #1.  Will it always be this way?  Will #2 ever feel like #1?

A part of me hates that I'm so torn up by the loss.  I can't really explain why I feel this way, it's not like I'm not pregnant now.  Perhaps because I wanted a baby for so long and to have it taken away with no explanation is just haunting me.

I feel selfish for not being able to to enjoy the time right now.  I feel like a bad mom, not caring for the baby right now.  I feel like it is my fault, even though I have no idea what I could have done differently.

Not a day goes by that I don't think something might be wrong.  I hate that my pregnancy is shadowed by a dark cloud.  No one should ever have to deal with that but sadly, many do.  It's a dark hand on my heart that I wish would go away.

Today, I am 19 weeks and 1 day pregnant.  Almost to the halfway point.  Still scared shitless that at the next appointment I'll be told something negative.  I want to relax and enjoy the ride.

1 comment:

Randi said...

Relax. It's the best for you and your baby. But? It's ok to grieve. I can't imagine how hard it would be losing your first child. I have a good feeling about this one, though, so hang in there. Love!!!!